Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Mega Is Better?


“Megalomania is a recorded psychiatric illness that consists of overestimating ones abilities.
Megalomania translates into an immoderate desire for power, the projected version of an irresistible love of self.  It should not surprise, then, that from the hands of those megalomaniacs spring aggressive villas, palaces festooned with Jacuzzis, pinnacles of Romanesque splendor, decadent, extravagant, orgiastic. “

“To defy the years, to build for the centuries, to construct to endure, to fashion the horizon for coming generations, to imagine the world as a river whose shores you are forming, to take both natural disasters and riots in stride.  To believe yourself a demiurge, more eternal than wars, than schisms, than revolutions.  To crush fellow humans, to engrave your name on the sides of mountains, to erect statures and palaces, to launch fleets of airplanes emblazoned with your signature, your logo, your face.  To be first; to speak loudest; to show off; to embrace vulgarity, to flaunt your bankroll and throw you r money around; to dazzle with the glitter of diamonds, crying “Me! Me!  I know!”  Me alone.  To be on a first name basis with God.  To be no more than your own overdeveloped ego; to become drunk with narcissism…to be a megalomaniac.”

“Megalomania is universal, timeless, always contemporary.  To it we owe bad habits, conflicts, and massacres but also small islands of extravagant blisss, corners of paradise, masterpieces, poems ad monuments, songs and laments.”
                  “Megalomania; Too Much Is Never Enough”
                           by Philippe Tretiack
                           An Assouline book

This is nothing new and will never be over.  As I travel the world I am constantly reminded of this obsession, compulsion, and egomania.  Is it part of all of us, human characteristic that explodes in some of us?  It is obvious to realize as seen in the great emperors, politicians, the jet setters, the rock stars, architects of constructs that change landscapes and cities, even the man and the moon.  It is obvious we are devoured in this megalomania and narcissism with Facebook, MySpace, twitter, reality shows, etc.  I can go on and on.  It is our reality, especially in the states.  We “use” the neurosis to create fame for ourselves as a “look at me” nation.  Fashion, fame, and rock and roll.  Bigger diamonds on the necks of rappers.  Faster cars, even though we have nowhere to drive them.  Larger homes that we can ever possibly use.  Paying athletes (who are deemed larger than life).  Ridiculous salaries to play a game a small percentage of people could ever play.  Giving our next generations unrealistic expectations to live up to because aren’t all the generations behind us supposed to be better? 
After going to the San Telmo Museum in San Sebastian and visiting the film exhibit from the last 80 years, it came to our attention the reality of this megalomania is like a plague.  You have the ability to create yourself in any light you want.  The famous are so vulnerable that we expect them to live up to our values, especially because they appear to us in our living rooms, bedrooms, iPhones, and computers daily, therefor they must be a literal part of our every day life?  Right?  Why do we place the rich and famous on pedestals?  Worship them, only to be let down by their inadequacies, human behavior, and mistakes most of us make possibly more than once in our lifetime.  It’s like we are in search of a spectacle and then when it happens, we react with disgust and disappointment.  When is it going to be enough stuff, enough face time, fame, and all so real, megalomania?  We have created an alter realism through technology.  How different is it from the days of the gladiators?  Maybe we will just go back to that, everything right in your face because we have been so desensitized there is nothing left to entertain our psyche.
How do you measure in this megalomania?  I surely can see some of these aspects appearing in myself at times.  Seriously, I have a Facebook page, a website, a twitter account too. 
As a wise old man said "Be simple and sincere".  Hmm?

Monday, September 10, 2012

Spain and the art of living


Hola!  Que tal? 

Well I have arrived in Madrid, Spain for my first visit to the country.  So far, in the one hour of arriving I have already decided I am coming back!  The people are beautiful, friendly, classy, and of course well cultured.   The moments I have cherished here in my short while are the people gathering for conversation, food and wine, sitting in the parks, all for the sake of togetherness.  I find we lack this importance in the states.  We don’t have the sense to slow down, no value to it, and definitely do not have time for it.  The quality of our relationships, in my opinion, are rated at about a 2/3 star, where in Spain 5 star.  So that means we are putting many other activities, thoughts, use of time towards other things, and may I quote “things” because we are trying to “get somewhere” faster, compete for something “better”, or frankly have lost the art of conversation and communicating.  I haven’t seen people on their phones, especially at restaurants, in groups, etc.  I see people smiling, laughing, talking, and even kissing.  It is so refreshing to experience especially when living a more mindful, conscious lifestyle. 
Maybe this art for cultural communication is so deeply ingrained in them due to the depth of their age as a country.  The value of family and relationships is top priority.  My friend and I have had this continuous conversation here and our concern is, will we ever go back to family values of eating together at the table? Leaving the workplace sooner rather than later and later? Engage with one another with intimate, undivided attention?  My fear is, I think it is going to get worse before it even gets better. 
Just for today, look directly into everyone’s eyes you see and converse with today.  Take just a moment longer to listen without feedback.  Stop to notice the beauty around you whether it is a fading cloud or joy upon a child’s face.  Can you practice being present and truly enjoy the company of yourself and others without distraction or attention deficit?
This is why I travel out of the US, to explore the boundaries of the ordinary and evolve my awareness and quality of life.  Let us keep sharing life together and see what happens.

Sunday, September 9, 2012

Be Open to the Mystery on Land or Air


“Be Open to the Mystery on Land or Air”
The travel to Spain from Tampa to Madrid was interesting, as it always is when you are open to the mystery.  One of my dearest girlfriends and I are taking our first overseas trip together.  We have been friends since teenagers and now have the money and cherished time to take this journey together. 
After boarding the plane and letting go of the anxiety and rush of leaving, packing, etc. we dropped into our first leg of travel.  The flight attendant started up a conversation with us by attacking my plum shirt by Splits 59, made of bamboo, super comfortable for travel.  She was like “I have to have that shirt, the color looks so good on me.  Where did you get it?  How can I get it?  What label is it?  Well can I just see the label?  No really I am just going to have you lean forward so I can take a look.”  She really had me lean forward and said, “we are all ladies here”.  I thought it was funny so we end up having a conversation later near the bathroom that ended up lasting quite a while.
There are no coincidences, as we all know.  And when you dive into the mystery, allow for listening and universal flow, life offers you magical moments of clarity.  As for this moment, her name was Jacqueline, a yoga teacher and flight attendant.  She has a daily practice especially on the days she flys.  Most important to her is meditation and mindfulness.  When she flys she is constantly practicing mindfulness, especially when surrounded by entitled people in a confined space (agh!).
We began the conversation because of the shirt and ended with exchange of business cards, hopes of staying in touch, and encouragement to continue our path with awareness.
If you are open to the mystery, the universe always supplies what is needed.  As for me, I was encourage to continue my hopes and goals, reaffirmed.  I cannot speak for my new friend, but can feel her gratitude for sharing Namaste (the light inside meets and honors the light inside you).
Stay tuned for the week ahead.  Sharing life with you on and off the mat.